10…9…8… Breathe… 7..6..5… Exhale.. 4..3..2…1.. OK. Think… Look at his eyes. Is dad gonna start yelling? What’s going to happen next? Time stops in between seconds as we look at each other. There is silence as we both think of that next tick. I turn around and dig some napkins out of the glove box, smile at him and say “oops”. The sigh escaping his little lips is giggly with spent anxiety. Eruption avoided.
At four years old, nearly anything can be instantly propelled in any direction at any time. Four year old’s don’t necessarily run around throwing things (all the time), but the inevitable accident does occur from time to time. O.K, a lot. This particular instance, my family and I had just exited a spectacular local drive-thru Christmas light display. A family tradition of sorts, we have all spent Christmas Eve touring this particular display of holiday cheer since we were kids. Through the years it has built up to a stunning display of decked halls, adornments, and of course thousands and thousands of lights depicting favorite Christmas and holiday scenes.
My son was putting the finishing moves on a hard-earned sundae when we hit a bump. The sundae hit the floor of the van, upside down. A small “uh-oh” escaped my son’s lips. Then a pause, as he weighed the magnitude of his words against our expected reaction. “I spilled my sundae on the floor.”
The night could have played out very differently. There could have been screaming, cussing, yelling, spankings. But such actions were not called for. It was just an accident. He’s not an unruly kid. Even if he were, that is not the behavior or disciplinary technique I want instilled in my son to be passed down through the generations.
When used properly, anger fuels the emotional catalyst to achieve good things and obtain positive results. Uncontrolled anger erupts as a boiling volcano spewing destruction and regret. There are many techniques one can use to help overcome anger issues and emotional roadblocks. The first step, and easiest to do begins inside. Think to yourself two things fir, “is this something worth expending huge amounts of energy over?”, second, “who does this affect, besides myself?” Then, inhale.. exhale… breathe.
10 Bible Verses About Anger
You should fear the sword yourselves;for wrath will bring punishment by the sword, and then you will know that there is judgment. – Job 19:29
A quick-tempered person does foolish things, and the one who devises evil schemes is hated. – Proverbs 14:17
A violent person entices their neighbor and leads them down a path that is not good – Proverbs 16:29
Better a patient person than a warrior, one with self-control than one who takes a city – Proverbs 16:32
Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools. – Ecclesiastes 7:9
Thus saith the Lord; For three transgressions of Edom, and for four, I will not turn away the punishment thereof; because he did pursue his brother with the sword, and did cast off pity, and his anger did tear perpetually, and he kept his wrath forever. – Amos 1:11
But I tell you that anyone who is angry with a brother or sister will be subject to judgment. Again, anyone who says to a brother or sister, ‘Raca,’is answerable to the court. And anyone who says, ‘You fool!’ will be in danger of the fire of hell. – Matthew 5:22
“In your anger do not sin” Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, – Ephesians 4:26
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, – James 1:19